The "how" would be the loverly breast sucking. Love some nipple play!
It's actually our second "date" and I let her know about it, and we had some girl on girl second base action, but it was dark and not visible. Her husband didn't see at the time. My husband doesn't care, of course. It's probably more myself who has the problem.
She actually said, "Good for you!" They're pretty laid back, so no worries, I'm sure.
I like the badge of honor attitude.

I also love being a pale porcelain princess.

Unfortunately, I hate bananas

but I'll work on massaging. (Remember bells, not playing, but massaging.)
PB&J - ahhhhhhh! I'm sure that didn't tickle!
Petroleum jelly. Interesting. I know it's like putting plastic on your skin - nothing gets in or out.