The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Want to swing, my wife is not open to idea. Any advice?

curious2u · 06-09-2009, 09:40 PM

Looking back my husband brought up the idea in a kinda clumsy, lovable way and I shot him down completely. In my opinion a woman who isn't ready just isn't ready- yet.
What I mean is we all grow at differant speeds and had he not introduced the idea - the seed- I would never have ever gotten to the point where I let another man touch me in ffront of my husband. It took me years to accept the idea and my guy was relentless but not pushy. He pushed the idea without being too pushy. I was nonetheless opposed to the idea for a lot of reasons.
I suggest you come to terms with either never swinging with her or waiting until she comes around on her own terms. I really appreciate my husband hung in there, no pun intended, and now we are on the same page.
To assume that two people would agree on this subject the first time it is brought up is possible but I have been on a lot of forums and spoken to a few people who have similar experiences. It takes TIME and you must be patient. If you are patient and it was meant to be then you will be rewarded.

06-09-2009, 09:40 PM	#21 (permalink)
curious2u Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 16 Location: New York Status: couple	Re: Want to swing, my wife is not open to idea. Any advice? Looking back my husband brought up the idea in a kinda clumsy, lovable way and I shot him down completely. In my opinion a woman who isn't ready just isn't ready- yet. What I mean is we all grow at differant speeds and had he not introduced the idea - the seed- I would never have ever gotten to the point where I let another man touch me in ffront of my husband. It took me years to accept the idea and my guy was relentless but not pushy. He pushed the idea without being too pushy. I was nonetheless opposed to the idea for a lot of reasons. I suggest you come to terms with either never swinging with her or waiting until she comes around on her own terms. I really appreciate my husband hung in there, no pun intended, and now we are on the same page. To assume that two people would agree on this subject the first time it is brought up is possible but I have been on a lot of forums and spoken to a few people who have similar experiences. It takes TIME and you must be patient. If you are patient and it was meant to be then you will be rewarded.