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DigginIt · 05-29-2009, 12:53 PM

I just posted a thread under good experiences and you can read about ours. This was our very first swing experience (MFM) and that was just this past Friday.

Here are a couple thoughts. I FELT I was ready to see my wife having fun but I wasn't 100% sure that my wife was ready. I'm very happy that the first experience was MFM because since then, over the last week I have seen her go from nervous prior to the experience to excited then afterwards back to nervousness and now to a total embracing attitude.

This is completely CHEESY but it has been like watching a flower bloom. I too have felt like I've come out of a shell. It has opened my mind up to all of the possibilities. It was a liberating experience for us. Neither of us had ever had a swing experience before this night.

I read many of the posts on this site and when you read mine you will see that it was NOT what we expected but it was great none the less. My biggest fear about the experience, prior to it happening, was that the other guy would be homophobic. I'm straight as straight can be but if I accidentally grabbed his hand because it was already on the breast I was reaching for (almost happened), I'm not worried about killing the mood. I can't say that for others.

That might be a good follow up question. Anyone out there find guys that freak out from accidental touching. Hell, if I'm really into it, I might just slap the guys ass while he's enjoying my wife, just kidding.

As far as the comment about the ex-boyfriend, that's too much for me. I'm very secure in my relationship but you never know about any issues that were never completely resolved that might fuck with emotions. We want our playtime with a couple that we have chemistry with, not a history with. To each their own though.

Hope this helps.

05-29-2009, 12:53 PM	#9 (permalink)
DigginIt Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 962 Location: Florida Status: He writes, she corrects spelling. Swing Lifestyle Name:DigginIt	Re: Advice for the First Threesome? - Calming Nerves I just posted a thread under good experiences and you can read about ours. This was our very first swing experience (MFM) and that was just this past Friday. Here are a couple thoughts. I FELT I was ready to see my wife having fun but I wasn't 100% sure that my wife was ready. I'm very happy that the first experience was MFM because since then, over the last week I have seen her go from nervous prior to the experience to excited then afterwards back to nervousness and now to a total embracing attitude. This is completely CHEESY but it has been like watching a flower bloom. I too have felt like I've come out of a shell. It has opened my mind up to all of the possibilities. It was a liberating experience for us. Neither of us had ever had a swing experience before this night. I read many of the posts on this site and when you read mine you will see that it was NOT what we expected but it was great none the less. My biggest fear about the experience, prior to it happening, was that the other guy would be homophobic. I'm straight as straight can be but if I accidentally grabbed his hand because it was already on the breast I was reaching for (almost happened), I'm not worried about killing the mood. I can't say that for others. That might be a good follow up question. Anyone out there find guys that freak out from accidental touching. Hell, if I'm really into it, I might just slap the guys ass while he's enjoying my wife, just kidding. As far as the comment about the ex-boyfriend, that's too much for me. I'm very secure in my relationship but you never know about any issues that were never completely resolved that might fuck with emotions. We want our playtime with a couple that we have chemistry with, not a history with. To each their own though. Hope this helps.