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Originally Posted by Dave_kat  Problem 2:
This one is a little more difficult to determine, we definitely do not know enough to really go on, but can think of several possibilities.
We're the third couple there with the second couple originally? If so, you might have been stepping into a relationship you didn't know about.
Had these two couples already met and made plans?
Had you had any talk/encounter with either of these couples before?
It's also possible there had been a misunderstanding of the drama beforehand and you might have gotten noticed during that. Some couples will notice the drama, and not what starts it, or know the facts, and try to steer away from that totally, perhaps taking others with them. |
Wow, very insightful on all of the points. All are very possible. We may never know but it could have been that the second couple had prearranged plans. We are sure that the other couple was there for some of the drama and I’m sure, now that you have mentioned it, others could have saw this unfold as well. This really could have been the killer for the evening.
My wife and I really appreciate the feedback as it has made us think a little more for any future club visits.
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Originally Posted by The Fuse
What do you mean by "clash"? If you were trying to ensure that there was mutual interest (which seems unlikely based on there NOT being mutual interest during your first conversation), does that mean that your wife or the other husband was trying to pull away from an unwanted advance? Or did they have a verbal clash?
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I do not think that is was necessarily from an unwanted advance. My wife said that she felt he was trying to be a little controlling but there was never a chance to really find out.
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Originally Posted by The Fuse Was your wife into the other husband? Your post said he probably didn't want to play. Was the lack of interest mutual with your wife, or was she interested? If so, was she pursuing him? That's the only thing I could think of that could possibly make them annoyed with you. |
My wife believes that it was more of an issue that he didn't want to play with anyone outside of their circle. We think he was being coerced into playing. When they came on the dance floor and split the two of us up, my wife felt that he was upset but she did not feel that it was directed at her or as if he was "taking one for the team."
I really believe that he had a comfort zone and we were outside of it for whatever reason. I do believe that we made every attempt to be respectful of their boundaries. It was right after the dance, about 2 songs, when we left the floor they regrouped, appeared to argue, said good bye to a couple friends and left. The woman was definitely interested in both mrs d and myself but nothing was said to us, no good byes or sorry that we are just not that into you, nothing.
Oh, on the other post about the really two great nights. It was such a long post when I wrote it I just pasted it in Word and decided to work on it off line. It’s still sitting there. Give me till tomorrow to get it up.
Thanks.
PS – if you are curious about us, we just created a Swing Lifestyle profile. We will post some pictures tomorrow hopefully. Most will be in the private gallery as we are trying to be discreet.