If we had to guess, you ran into a couple of problems on your third night there.
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Originally Posted by DigginIt  I (the guy) made eye contact with a couple that I though was attractive and within seconds we were all chatting (she came over without the SO male half and was shortly followed by him). She was sweet, funny and very outgoing and there was an attraction to her on both mine and my wife’s part. Unfortunately, my wife and her husband didn’t quite hit it off very well. We decided to back off as we wanted to be respectful but clearly we had caused a rift between the husband and wife. |
Problem 1. The first couple you met and started to party with, call them "couple A". Mr A and your wife didn't get along or mesh. That happens when you get four people together - sometimes things just don't click.
Most couple's won't take one for the team, and if Mr.A and MrsDigginit didn't mesh, then you did right by backing away respectfully.
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Originally Posted by DigginIt A bit later, they seemed to come to an agreement and as my wife and I were dancing, they came out and split us apart on the floor and I was dancing with his wife and vice versa. Nothing inappropriate as I wanted to ensure there was complete mutual interest on both sides. My wife and her husband seemed to clash again. When this happened, we backed off trying to still be considerate. The long story short is that they eventually couldn’t seem to settle their differences and they left the club angry. |
Going back, even though their actions initiated it, wasn't quite the right thing.
They probably left after Mr.A and Mrs.Digginit didn't get along and either Mr or Mrs A said something like together or not at all. If the other party is highly interested, it might have seemed like a fight was going on.
Attempting to find an "alternate arrangement" would have been a very big mistake without knowing couple A's rules.
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Originally Posted by DigginIt Most everyone else at the club was nice but the one additional time we actually tried to talk with another couple who seemed interested; we were immediately cut off by a second couple that we believe didn’t want them speaking with us. We ended up having sex upstairs in the library, which was a fun voyeuristic display but ultimately we left a little disappointed. |
Problem 2:
This one is a little more difficult to determine, we definitely do not know enough to really go on, but can think of several possibilities.
We're the third couple there with the second couple couple originally? If so, you might have been stepping into a relationship you didn't know about.
Had these two couples already met and made plans?
Had you had any talk/encounter with either of these couples before?
It's also possible there had been a misunderstanding of the drama beforehand and you might have gotten noticed during that. Some couples will notice the drama, and not what starts it, or know the facts, and try to steer away from that totally, perhaps taking others with them.
You say you had a wonderful time the previous two nights - let those nights make your determination about the club. Sometimes, try as we all might, we don't hook up during an event, the chemistry just doesn't happen. We can't judge things based off of one night, and if two out of three were awesome, then you're doing much better than some couples do.
Heck, when we go to a new club, it generally takes until the second or third time to really get started in the club, as the regulars get a feel for what we're about.
Don't get discouraged, two out of three isn't bad at all.