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DigginIt · 05-25-2009, 12:33 AM

If you didn’t read our short introduction, my wife and I are very new to this. While I am posting my second post ever here on SB about our bad experience, please make sure you read the next post on the first two days and what we consider very good experiences.

Quick preface, we are in our early 40s. We really feel we are fun loving, outgoing, attractive and in pretty good shape. We decided to make our first adventure at an on premise club in New Orleans. I know there are probably going to be some people reading this post and thinking “hey, I saw you guys.” So if you think you did see us then please say hello and tell us what you thought.

We went three nights in a row, Thursday, Friday and Saturday. The first two nights were actually great and will be what I’m going to be posting next about. This post is about the third night that was bad. I’m very thankful that it was the third night that sucked or it really could have killed our interest.

Saturday night rolls around and the club is couples only. We were on a sexual high from the first two nights and due to some long ass waiting times to get fed, we arrived at the club almost 2 hours after opening. This could have been part of the issue but we decided we were going to make the best of it.

We came in and found a nice spot at the bar facing the dance floor. The place was packed. We had been seeing 10-15 couples in the place at any given time the first two nights but we were really excited to see about 4 times that many couples this night. I (the guy) made eye contact with a couple that I though was attractive and within seconds we were all chatting (she came over without the SO male half and was shortly followed by him). She was sweet, funny and very outgoing and there was an attraction to her on both mine and my wife’s part. Unfortunately, my wife and her husband didn’t quite hit it off very well. We decided to back off as we wanted to be respectful but clearly we had caused a rift between the husband and wife.

A bit later, they seemed to come to an agreement and as my wife and I were dancing, they came out and split us apart on the floor and I was dancing with his wife and vice versa. Nothing inappropriate as I wanted to ensure there was complete mutual interest on both sides. My wife and her husband seemed to clash again. When this happened, we backed off trying to still be considerate. The long story short is that they eventually couldn’t seem to settle their differences and they left the club angry. At us or at each other, I have no idea. We felt she wanted to play and he didn't. We felt very bad over the incident and it was a shame that we were not able to find an alternate arrangement with them as the wives seemed to be attracted to each other.

Most everyone else at the club was nice but the one additional time we actually tried to talk with another couple who seemed interested; we were immediately cut off by a second couple that we believe didn’t want them speaking with us. We ended up having sex upstairs in the library, which was a fun voyeuristic display but ultimately we left a little disappointed.

There really seemed to be a lot more drama than we had anticipated. Is that common?

05-25-2009, 12:33 AM	#1 (permalink)
DigginIt Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 962 Location: Florida Status: He writes, she corrects spelling. Swing Lifestyle Name:DigginIt	Third time's "not" a charm If you didn’t read our short introduction, my wife and I are very new to this. While I am posting my second post ever here on SB about our bad experience, please make sure you read the next post on the first two days and what we consider very good experiences. Quick preface, we are in our early 40s. We really feel we are fun loving, outgoing, attractive and in pretty good shape. We decided to make our first adventure at an on premise club in New Orleans. I know there are probably going to be some people reading this post and thinking “hey, I saw you guys.” So if you think you did see us then please say hello and tell us what you thought. We went three nights in a row, Thursday, Friday and Saturday. The first two nights were actually great and will be what I’m going to be posting next about. This post is about the third night that was bad. I’m very thankful that it was the third night that sucked or it really could have killed our interest. Saturday night rolls around and the club is couples only. We were on a sexual high from the first two nights and due to some long ass waiting times to get fed, we arrived at the club almost 2 hours after opening. This could have been part of the issue but we decided we were going to make the best of it. We came in and found a nice spot at the bar facing the dance floor. The place was packed. We had been seeing 10-15 couples in the place at any given time the first two nights but we were really excited to see about 4 times that many couples this night. I (the guy) made eye contact with a couple that I though was attractive and within seconds we were all chatting (she came over without the SO male half and was shortly followed by him). She was sweet, funny and very outgoing and there was an attraction to her on both mine and my wife’s part. Unfortunately, my wife and her husband didn’t quite hit it off very well. We decided to back off as we wanted to be respectful but clearly we had caused a rift between the husband and wife. A bit later, they seemed to come to an agreement and as my wife and I were dancing, they came out and split us apart on the floor and I was dancing with his wife and vice versa. Nothing inappropriate as I wanted to ensure there was complete mutual interest on both sides. My wife and her husband seemed to clash again. When this happened, we backed off trying to still be considerate. The long story short is that they eventually couldn’t seem to settle their differences and they left the club angry. At us or at each other, I have no idea. We felt she wanted to play and he didn't. We felt very bad over the incident and it was a shame that we were not able to find an alternate arrangement with them as the wives seemed to be attracted to each other. Most everyone else at the club was nice but the one additional time we actually tried to talk with another couple who seemed interested; we were immediately cut off by a second couple that we believe didn’t want them speaking with us. We ended up having sex upstairs in the library, which was a fun voyeuristic display but ultimately we left a little disappointed. There really seemed to be a lot more drama than we had anticipated. Is that common?