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Originally Posted by wiretuggin  Hi guys, this is my first post.
Let me fill you in and go from there. I have tried talking with my wife about swinging for about five years now, she seemed interested about year three. We purchased a couple of documentarys and talked of going to a club however we were waiting to finish having children first. Now thats done she has seemingly changed her mind and asked me to drop the subject. We traditionally go on a mountain vacation with another vanilla couple twice a year and each trip gets a little more risque. This last trip we were having sex in the hot tub while the other husband was trying to get his wife to follow our lead, however she wouldnt. She got out for a bit and we continued on having sex. While having sex I asked the husband to touch my wifes breast which he did til his wife returned from the kitchen. My wife turned into such a sexual animal that night, and also the next night when we returned home. All this made me bring up the subject again with a nasty argument following. I browsed alot of swinger sites copying and pasting articles of positive nature and asked her to read it stating we would have an honest adult conversation about it. When we sat down to talk about it she told me the hot tub incident did excite her. However she says the whole idea of a mmf situation is just wrong. When I ask her what is wrong about it she cant clarify a reason, just that its wrong. I believe we are having moral issues and my question is how to get around these issues, it seems clearly she enjoyed the extra attention but just deems it wrong. FYI, we will be returning to the mountains in early September for another trip with the same vanilla couple. All help and advice will be much appreciated, Thank you in advance. |
You sure you've not been transferring your fantasy to your wife?
Not being rude, but there are feelings, emotions, loyalties and a whole gamut of stuff for EACH of you to jointly and separately consider when thinking along these lines.
It would be hard enough if your hoped for/intended initiation-partners were committed (but you say they are vanilla, too).
So now you gotta allow for all of
their fears, guilt and confusions too.
Be careful what you wish for because it might just come true.
And once it's done, it can't be undone.