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Originally Posted by Chicup  We have a couple we have been playing with since we started. I can honestly say I love her and I can say we are no where near poly. Its a non-entangling love. I love her as she is for what she is, but no butterflies, no protectionism, none of the usual 'love' aspects. |
I don't quite see why "non-entangling love...for what she is" is not real love or wouldn't count somehow as poly. We moved from swinging to poly because for both of us (but especially me, Mrs. Ivory) sex without an emotional connection wasn't appealing. However, that doesn't mean we're looking for someone to move into our house and share every moment of our lives.
We are open to pretty much any level below that, from friends with benefits to long term lover. So far, there hasn't been any jealousy or fear as we've pursued connections, nor has it made us feel distant or separated (quite the opposite in fact). But then, ever since our relationship started, we've each had close friends of both sexes (our wedding party was gender mixed on both sides). So we're used to having emotional ongoing relationships with people of the opposite sex, and thanks to swinging we're comfortable with non-monogamy. Mixing the sex and the emotions seemed like a natural step and so far has been quite successful for us both.