[NCfuncouple98]

No. But for a good reason.

There was a single male we had played with, that was also a very close friend. When Mr NC went out of town for a week last October, this friend was over every day making sure me and the kids were ok, and even went on the camping trip with us that was already scheduled and paid for.

It was then that I first found the word "poly", and looked into it, and wondered, "Why not?" Well, Mr NC was extremely uncomfortable with the whole idea, even after reading some of the same stories/articles that I had. He didn't get it. When it started to strain our relationship ever so slightly, I realized it, closed the door, and never looked back.

Since then Mr NC and I have grown closer, our relationship is stronger and we have both agreed that we are only interested in swinging, and no long-term relationships. Long-term friendship with another couple, maybe, but that's our limit.

We also agree that should either one of us face that again, we won't wait so long to address it. He saw it happening, but wasn't sure how far it would go so he waited a bit before he confronted it.

I believe someone else on this board has stated "At the first sign of attachment, the door is closed and no more playing". I just can't remember if that was bbarnsworth or slevin or mrklin (sorry guys, I know it's one of you!). But I really liked that advice, for us. And it's up to me, or him, to notice any signs of the other "falling" or getting too close. We're just not in a place where we want anything poly, we just want to play and have some fun, but leave it at that. We love where our relationship is, and we don't want to change it.

Mrs NC