I'm not sure where all this hostility came from but here goes....
There is a very big difference between discrimination (which I believe many of the clubs do in regards to bisexual men) and being a discriminating person. We all make choices on who we swing with based on what turns us on. That goes into every level whether it's simply looks, or what they are into in regards to swinging.
If a couple where the male is straight and has no desire to try bisexuality chooses not to swing with a couple where the guy is bi that is their choice they are not being discriminatory (in the legal since of the word). Once again we are dealing with two different definations for the same word (but in this case both are right).
Just as a white couple choosing not to swing with a black couple is not discrimination (it is their choice... and does in no way mean that they have anything against black people, they just don't have a desire to swing with them. It is the same when it comes to bisexuality.
Each person makes their choices in what they choose to do in this lifestyle. Liza you choose not to do full swap with others, I choose not to have anal sex with people other than my husband, my husband chooses not to have sex with another guy. We each make these choices not based on homophobio, racism or any other discriminatory (legal word) practice. We make them based on what turns us on and what our fantasies are.
This message board was created for one purpose: for everyone to share their ideas and thoughts on swinging and for everyone to help each other with problems they might be having in the lifestyle or questions they might have. NOT for us to judge others based on what they choose to or not to do. By not having respect for each others opinions and slamming people for expressing them you not only show your ignorance but you scare away many people who would participate in the board for fear that what they say will only get treated with the same disrespect.
As I've said many times here. We each choose what we want to do in the lifestyle, whether it's softswing or gangbangs, that is what we choose. There is nothing wrong with that choice. The only thing that is wrong is judging someone else for the choice that they make, or assuming that you know how they feel or the reasons that they are doing what they are doing when you aren't in their shoes.
Julie
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