It might be a negative feed-back cycle is going on.
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He thinks that you are not as enthusiastic as you used to be, and so he is not as inspired to perform and can't give it his all.
You think that he is not "giving it his all" and you don't show as much enthusiasm.
He thinks that you are not as enthusiastic as you used to be, and so he is not as inspired to perform and can't give it his all.
You think that he is not "giving it his all" and you don't show as much enthusiasm.
and on and on...
so what to do? Fake it to Break it!
Sex is 90% mental, 10% physical.
Take charge of your sex one evening, tie him up and shove a dildo in his ass, or put on music and go-go dance naked, tie him to the bedpost and spank him, sneak into his shower, throw him down on the couch and sit on his face when he is not expectin it. THEN moan, OOOOOH, AAAAH, Say "Oh God Yeah, I couldn't wait", etc.
Put on a good act that you find him VERRY much a turn on. He will definately respond to your enthusiasm (who wouldn't respond to an enthusiastic partner) with his own enthusiasm. If you see him enthusiastic, it will make you enthusiastic, which makes him more enthusiastic, which makes you more enthusiastic, etc.
Very quicly you will find that you aren't acting after all. Nothing is more of a turn on than a partner who "WANTS YOU BAD".
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