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You cannot force (perhaps too strong a term) anyone to do something they are not truly inclined to do or comfortable with. Even though the idea may excite you both at the time of discussion, the application of the act is far reaching. If she is not in the mind to actively pursue what you have discussed in the heat of passion, you will only walk away frustrated with each attempt.

Now, having said that, may I suggest that both of you agree on a visit to a local lifestyle club. Ensure her (AND STICK TO IT!!!) that your only intention is to see what happens, talk to others and discover TOGETHER, the ways other people are experiencing the very same desires and wants.

If she is not agreeable to this, you must wait until such a time as an individual approaches or is approached that fits BOTH of your desires.

I may also like to suggest avoiding friends as alternate possibilities for the very same reasons we suggest you not make the connection with co-workers. The job issue may not come into play, but your private lives may become mired if they decided to speak to others regarding your activities. Remember, the only way a secret is kept is if only one person knows. Tell one other person and the chances are, the world will know by day break!

Her desire to take things as they come is certainly a painfully slow process for you. Setting your goals and desires TOGETHER is far more important than trying to coax her into moving faster or in a direction she is not comfortable with. You will discover that, as the idea takes hold in her mind, she may, in time, be ready to actively seek others for your fantasy. No matter how long it takes, remember the number one rule. This is something that BOTH of you must agree upon 100%. Your timetable means nothing.

My last suggestion to you is to sit back, communicate, openly discuss, fantasize together, and enjoy the build-up of what will eventually amount to become the realization of a fantasy fulfilled. Make no expectations. Set no dates. Do not pressure anyone. Just keep the flames between you burning brightly and hotter as the event approaches. If anything, you will have great sex with each other just thinking and openly discussing the potential!