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unusualsuspects · 04-29-2009, 02:31 AM

the big thing for my wife in this regard was her feeling comfortable admitting to me that she was attracted to others. It's not just the cock, remember, it's the looks, the flirtation, the eye contact, the kissing, etc. I made the assumption that I think you are making that it's primarily about the sex.

Don't jump all the way into the deep end. One thing to do, and this might be hard for you at first, is play the "rating game" while out with your spouse and just point at guys to find her "type" and maybe vice versa. Now, I will admit this isn't representative since it's just physical, but it will get her (and you) more tuned to what each other wants plus open a line of communication that's sexy, and involving sexy thoughts into communication should help things along.

Good luck, and welcome to the board!

04-29-2009, 02:31 AM	#3 (permalink)
unusualsuspects Here to Stay Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 31 Location: San Jose, CA Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:unusualsuspects	Re: Looking for guidence and direction from others the big thing for my wife in this regard was her feeling comfortable admitting to me that she was attracted to others. It's not just the cock, remember, it's the looks, the flirtation, the eye contact, the kissing, etc. I made the assumption that I think you are making that it's primarily about the sex. Don't jump all the way into the deep end. One thing to do, and this might be hard for you at first, is play the "rating game" while out with your spouse and just point at guys to find her "type" and maybe vice versa. Now, I will admit this isn't representative since it's just physical, but it will get her (and you) more tuned to what each other wants plus open a line of communication that's sexy, and involving sexy thoughts into communication should help things along. Good luck, and welcome to the board!