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***JustAskJulie*** · 04-23-2009, 07:16 PM

This book is NOT a swinger book, but you may find more info in this book to help you improve your swinging than you will in most any swinger book. It is a must read and a life-saver for anyone who admits to even the slightest bit of shyness, trepidation or fear of entering rooms full of strangers ... even moreso if you have any hopes of actually talking to said strangers.

93% of people admit to some level of shyness - from the introduction.

The first chapters go into the 5 Roadblocks to socializing in a room full of strangers and then how to overcome said roadblocks. Who would think that the good advice of our mother "don't talk to strangers" would still be ringing around in the back of our subconscious, but it is!

If I took away nothing else from this book it would be the advice that whether you are a guest or a hostess, you should consider it your job to make an effort to make OTHERS feel more comfortable. If you focus on others, you stop focusing on yourself long enough to get past the shyness and get to know people (because you are doing it FOR them).

This is probably one of the few books you will find that will help you not only improve your swinging life, but your business and personal life as well. The book is geared towards business social functions but it is very easy to take her advice and apply it to any social function. And from reading it, you can garner some wonderful tips on how to be a better host (if that is your goal).

So remember, whether you are a guest or a host, try to act like a host and do what you can to make everyone around you feel more at ease (after all that's the hosts job, right?).

After reading this book I can honestly say that both of us feel much more comfortable in social group situations and have made a huge improvement of stepping away from our chairs/tables and getting out and mixing and mingling, making new friends and are having a much better time. This is one of those rare books I will hang on to and I will return and re-read it whenever I start allowing the shyness to seep back in.

04-23-2009, 07:16 PM	#1 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,293 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Review: "How to Work a Room" - by Susan Roane This book is NOT a swinger book, but you may find more info in this book to help you improve your swinging than you will in most any swinger book. It is a must read and a life-saver for anyone who admits to even the slightest bit of shyness, trepidation or fear of entering rooms full of strangers ... even moreso if you have any hopes of actually talking to said strangers. 93% of people admit to some level of shyness - from the introduction. The first chapters go into the 5 Roadblocks to socializing in a room full of strangers and then how to overcome said roadblocks. Who would think that the good advice of our mother "don't talk to strangers" would still be ringing around in the back of our subconscious, but it is! If I took away nothing else from this book it would be the advice that whether you are a guest or a hostess, you should consider it your job to make an effort to make OTHERS feel more comfortable. If you focus on others, you stop focusing on yourself long enough to get past the shyness and get to know people (because you are doing it FOR them). This is probably one of the few books you will find that will help you not only improve your swinging life, but your business and personal life as well. The book is geared towards business social functions but it is very easy to take her advice and apply it to any social function. And from reading it, you can garner some wonderful tips on how to be a better host (if that is your goal). So remember, whether you are a guest or a host, try to act like a host and do what you can to make everyone around you feel more at ease (after all that's the hosts job, right?). After reading this book I can honestly say that both of us feel much more comfortable in social group situations and have made a huge improvement of stepping away from our chairs/tables and getting out and mixing and mingling, making new friends and are having a much better time. This is one of those rare books I will hang on to and I will return and re-read it whenever I start allowing the shyness to seep back in.