I felt that way in my last relationship.
When it was fresh she was the most stimulating person I had ever had sex with. Having preceded the relationship with almost two decades of swinging that said quite a bit.
Other things happened in our lives. We found ourselves incapable of dealing with situations that were a breeze during the first couple of years, but suddenly were major issues.
I dreaded having sex with her at times. I knew very well that anyone in their right mind would love it, as was demonstrated during swinging experiences.
I am not suggesting that my situation is similar to yours. The neat thing about letting your hair down on a thread is that you get a lot of different perspectives. Well, the ones that I have read are great points of view, and I am just proposing that there may be another one.
It wasn't that she lost her lovemaking skills at all. She didn't gain weight but if she did that would not have been a factor anyhow.
It was that underlying problems in our relationship were following us into the bedroom.
I tried to solve them but they were way too huge for me. So I left her.
The loss of lust for your spouse is indeed a serious issue. To compare him with others is indeed a sad state of affairs.
I would suggest that you find someway to get to the bottom of the problem before you lose each other.
Sex is nothing. If you love someone dearly then it does not matter if they are capable of bringing you to a screaming orgasm, especially if you swing cuz someone else can anyhow.
You are in my mind expressing a loss of lust for your mate. That is what you are saying if I hear you right.
Lust loss syndrome...kewl...lets call it LLS....everything must have initials huh?, is a sign of underlying unadressed issues that you gotta either tackle or ignore.
I cannot offer advice but I would consider it very serious.
John.
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