 Re: Want to swing by wife is not open to idea. Any advice?
Mr NC brought it up in conversations for a couple of years, I never really took him seriously about it.
After nice romantic evenings together, the right intimacy, whatever, he just found moments where we were really communicating to bring it up "in passing". I still didn't take it seriously.
Honestly I really was Queen Vanilla. It just slowly worked itself that way as we explored with porn, conversations, sex toys, and just open conversation, as well as fantasies. That was the key to opening the door.
So what was the magic seed that finally blossomed? Can't really tell you. Each person is different, each couple relates differently, and the conversations we had could have the opposite effect for you.
You know your wife. You know this is something of interest to you. Now you need to communicate with your wife honestly and openly, and if she says "No Way", well, maybe that means NEVER, and maybe it's just not the right time.
Our earlier conversations were about a 3some with another male or female, and that helped open the door. Honestly the thought of swapping with another couple, back then, would've completely turned me away. Things change.
Mrs NC.
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