The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Meeting Someone and Going To Their Place???

***JustAskJulie*** · 04-09-2009, 12:09 PM

Ditto LFM2 again.

I totally feel you and going into any situation we don't PLAN to go back to someone else's place (or bring them to ours). It's just not something that we are comfortable accepting up front. However, if we meet them and all things click and we feel comfortable with it at that point, then we have no problem with it.

My suggestion would be to let them know that you are simply intending to meet them for drinks and that is it. If more than that happens, great. If not, no big deal. I personally, don't like going into a first meet with another couple with the intent of playing that night (regardless of where we may be playing), doing so too easily sets you up to end up playing in a situation where you aren't really comfortable (or where one might feel they have to take one for the team), because you've already set an expectation up front of playing that night (therefore it becomes harder to just end the night and go home, if you aren't ready to play with them).

04-09-2009, 12:09 PM	#6 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,293 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Meeting Someone and Going To Their Place??? Ditto LFM2 again. I totally feel you and going into any situation we don't PLAN to go back to someone else's place (or bring them to ours). It's just not something that we are comfortable accepting up front. However, if we meet them and all things click and we feel comfortable with it at that point, then we have no problem with it. My suggestion would be to let them know that you are simply intending to meet them for drinks and that is it. If more than that happens, great. If not, no big deal. I personally, don't like going into a first meet with another couple with the intent of playing that night (regardless of where we may be playing), doing so too easily sets you up to end up playing in a situation where you aren't really comfortable (or where one might feel they have to take one for the team), because you've already set an expectation up front of playing that night (therefore it becomes harder to just end the night and go home, if you aren't ready to play with them).