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Originally posted by ArcaneReference
We've been very open to encounters since we got together, however our rules are that this is discussed beforehand, and up until recently the other party was always involved - at least in the same house, if not the same room or bed.
Mr. AR went on a vacation with his buddies, met some woman, lied about being married, played the tropical single guy, and then lied to me about it (until I got an e-mail from her going on about how fantastic it was) - then I was pissed!
Open is "open", i.e. open for discussion and action, not behind the back. The damage done by his cheating has taken a long time to repair.
Face it, a fuck is a fuck, but his lying to me and hiding it from me turned it into cheating, and the lying about being single while he was on this vacation, I felt, disrespected me and everything to dowith our marriage and was very, very hurtful. We are now re-exploring the boundaries of our relationship and working on re-establishing the trust that was battered.
So, the long and short of it is, I am for an open relationship as long as it is truly "open" - no lies, no bullshit. |
Personally as most people on this board know, I take honesty kinda half way. But when it comes to my lover fucking someone behind my back.....OH NO.
I give you a lot of credit to re-establish the boundries..thats much more that I could do.
GOod luck and I wish I had that tolerance....
John.