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***JustAskJulie*** · 04-03-2009, 01:30 PM

Ignore the Chicup Monkey... evidently someone has been rattling his cage and he is irritated.

I will repeat what others have said about your first trip to an on-premise club... go with no expectations of play. Plan to go and check the place out and have fun with each other. If anything else happens, it's a bonus (and you won't be dissapointed).

Clothing: Where something that you feel both comfortable AND sexy in. If you feel both of those, you will be confident.

Make sure you get a tour. If they don't offer you one upfront. Ask for it.

Seating: Choose a seat that is in the line of traffic, not in a corner where people have to work to get to you. Near the door (but not next to), near the entrance to the playrooms, or near the dancefloor are usually good choices. This allows you to easily access people who are walking by and them to access you.

Don't wait for people to approach you. This is the biggest mistake people make which often leads to the biggest complaint (no one talked to us so we didn't have a good time). It's up to you to make sure you have a good time, not anyone else. If you see people you want to meet, approach them with a friendly hello and introduce yourselves.

If you aren't ready to play (or interested in the couple you are talking to) make it clear very early in the conversation. Do not waste their time or yours, by spending the whole evening (or even a half hour) with someone you have no intention of playing with.

If you feel like getting frisky, go for it. Even if you don't play with anyone else, go take advantage of the playrooms and play together. You'll either find that you really enjoy playing in front of people, really hate it, or that the next thing you know that hot couple who was playing next to you is now playing with you and you like it.

04-03-2009, 01:30 PM	#8 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Getting ready checklist... Ignore the Chicup Monkey... evidently someone has been rattling his cage and he is irritated. I will repeat what others have said about your first trip to an on-premise club... go with no expectations of play. Plan to go and check the place out and have fun with each other. If anything else happens, it's a bonus (and you won't be dissapointed). Clothing: Where something that you feel both comfortable AND sexy in. If you feel both of those, you will be confident. Make sure you get a tour. If they don't offer you one upfront. Ask for it. Seating: Choose a seat that is in the line of traffic, not in a corner where people have to work to get to you. Near the door (but not next to), near the entrance to the playrooms, or near the dancefloor are usually good choices. This allows you to easily access people who are walking by and them to access you. Don't wait for people to approach you. This is the biggest mistake people make which often leads to the biggest complaint (no one talked to us so we didn't have a good time). It's up to you to make sure you have a good time, not anyone else. If you see people you want to meet, approach them with a friendly hello and introduce yourselves. If you aren't ready to play (or interested in the couple you are talking to) make it clear very early in the conversation. Do not waste their time or yours, by spending the whole evening (or even a half hour) with someone you have no intention of playing with. If you feel like getting frisky, go for it. Even if you don't play with anyone else, go take advantage of the playrooms and play together. You'll either find that you really enjoy playing in front of people, really hate it, or that the next thing you know that hot couple who was playing next to you is now playing with you and you like it.