This may seem like it's a bit strange, but I would have each of you take a Myers-Briggs test to determine the personality types involved. This will help everyone in determining who is more likely to need this or that kind of emotional help and what types of personalities do and do not mix well. You can read about this at:
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia A free test is at:
Personality Test
We got pretty close to doing the move in thing when things started to fall apart. It's very important to have a mix of people that regardless if issues, do not manipulate and use passive aggressive methods to express likes / dislikes.