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Old 05-18-2003, 05:05 PM   #12 (permalink)
OhioCouple
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My husband is a very visual man. I did not find this out about him until we started looking into swinging. At first I was a tad offended and did much the same as you, felt like maybe I wasn't enough or didn't have the right stuff, in the right places....ya know the stuff us girls all do, even though our sex life was great. At first I tried to humor him (as he gets really turned on by viewing the photos on the pay sites we belong to) by viewing them with him. I got bored with that real quickly, then somewhat miffed to the point where he felt like he had to hide to do it. That isn't what I wanted at all. After all he is a grown man and I had no right to get miffed over something as innocent as viewing pictures.

The way I corrected this with him was by making a point to ask him "Hey, have you been to Who's on today?" Or "Are there any new pics on the card site?" After a while he became comfortable with going to the sites again and every once in a while if he sees something that he thinks I would like, he calls me in to view it. And he is usually right, I do like it.

In return, although this site is not a sexual turn on for me, he doesn't gripe anymore about the time I spend on it and will on occasion ask me..."Hey has so and so posted anything recently? What is going on with them?" So it was a give and take situation for us. We are just two people with different desires that bring us pleasure.

BTW, I looked at your pictures! You are a very attractive young woman and you have nothing to worry about!

Lori
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