The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Getting ready checklist for first trip to on-premise club

iapr · 03-28-2009, 08:04 AM

I'll echo what the others have said (except for the monkey distemper shots)

Go with the intention of meeting other people and finding out more about the club and how people tick. If you go in with any specific sexual scenarios as an objective you will come away disappointed.

Make your goals to meet and talk with a number of people and to dance and mingle and have fun exploring new territorys and new experiences with your own partner.

You will not be attracted to everyone at the club nor will everyone be attracted to you. Your male half will only be attracted to about 60% or less of females at the club. Your female half will only be attracted to about 5% or less of the males of the club and however many females she will be attracted to will depend on her level of bisexuality, so that could range from 0% to 80t%. Have a plan in place for how to deal with that discrepancy.

Be spotlessly clean and immaculately groomed from head to toe (that should go without saying but you'd be suprised how many do not follow that advice)

Inform the club owners/management that this is your first time to the club and have them show you around and introduce you to some trusted regulars to help you feel welcome.

Do not feel that since you have been getting excited in anticipation of this and that you are in a swingers club that you HAVE to play with anyone. If the attraction, chemistry and comfort are not there, do not proceed. Don't be afraid to walk away and come back another day.

If you are mood to have sex with each other but aren't feeling the love with anyone else, in most on-premise clubs it is perfectly acceptable to have sex with only your own partner in the group room.

Treat everyone with curtesy and respect and do not accept anyone treating you less. If anyone is annoying, disrespectfull etc just walk away and don't burn up any more time with them.

Most importanly, HAVE FUN and then come back and tell us how it went!!!

03-28-2009, 08:04 AM	#6 (permalink)
iapr Has Left the Building Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 832 Location: State of bliss Status: couple	Re: Getting ready checklist... I'll echo what the others have said (except for the monkey distemper shots) Go with the intention of meeting other people and finding out more about the club and how people tick. If you go in with any specific sexual scenarios as an objective you will come away disappointed. Make your goals to meet and talk with a number of people and to dance and mingle and have fun exploring new territorys and new experiences with your own partner. You will not be attracted to everyone at the club nor will everyone be attracted to you. Your male half will only be attracted to about 60% or less of females at the club. Your female half will only be attracted to about 5% or less of the males of the club and however many females she will be attracted to will depend on her level of bisexuality, so that could range from 0% to 80t%. Have a plan in place for how to deal with that discrepancy. Be spotlessly clean and immaculately groomed from head to toe (that should go without saying but you'd be suprised how many do not follow that advice) Inform the club owners/management that this is your first time to the club and have them show you around and introduce you to some trusted regulars to help you feel welcome. Do not feel that since you have been getting excited in anticipation of this and that you are in a swingers club that you HAVE to play with anyone. If the attraction, chemistry and comfort are not there, do not proceed. Don't be afraid to walk away and come back another day. If you are mood to have sex with each other but aren't feeling the love with anyone else, in most on-premise clubs it is perfectly acceptable to have sex with only your own partner in the group room. Treat everyone with curtesy and respect and do not accept anyone treating you less. If anyone is annoying, disrespectfull etc just walk away and don't burn up any more time with them. Most importanly, HAVE FUN and then come back and tell us how it went!!!