[gatorvol64]

Ok, we are in a poly relationship but currently do not live in the same house. We've been together a little over 2 years and spend a lot of time together. We would like to live together and intend to do so at one point. For many of the reasons stated, we didn't want to initially and can not right now.

We've all four talked and talked about this. While it will solve many problems we currently have, we are aware it will open up new ones. We do spend a lot of time at each others houses and the chores and such, daily living, work out rather well. We haven't combined any bills as of yet though cell phones plans and the like are being researched. And deciding where we would live is another issue. Gator and I have a house that is big enough but not laid out the way we'd prefer but that is a small thing. Living right next to some of Gator's disapproving family is a big thing. Both households currently have older teenagers living in them and while they are generally for our relationship, we do not want to make it mandatory that we all live together. So, we'll probably wait until all are moved out. Selling houses right now would have at least one of us losing money.

I think the suggestions you've received about actually living some day to day life seems more than appropriate. You seem to be just having fun now and if you are only seeing each other every few months, you are probably still in the throes of NRE. While moving in together can nip that in the bud, it can also kill what you have.

Vol