[good times]

Yep, Chicup is correct, and I can give a good example.

My wife is in management and oversees more than 100 employees in her job. We have worried about this issue often. We have never actually had a problem with it, but we came as close as one could come.

We went to the club one night and Mrs. GT ran into a client from work. They talked for a bit and the client mentioned to my wife that one of her employee's had just left the club moments before we arrived. It turned out that my wife had just fired that employee that week. This former employee was a young single male, who would have very little to lose by outing himself. Fact is, many of the young single males I know in the lifestyle are pretty much "out" and delight in telling their buddies about their adventures at the swing club. In this case, had this former employee actually been there when we arrived, it would of surprised me if he didn't try to out my wife to her coworkers. Which, in all likelihood would have meant the end of her job.

So, while I would like to think that the theory that we are all discreet and are all their for the same reason is valid. The fact is, it really depends on the circumstances, how much risk a person has, and how much they are willing to lose.