[The Fuse]

We've been in a situation where we were considering relocating. The relationship fell apart before we did it, but we would have done it. However, we had already lived with the couple for six months prior to that, so we already knew what it was like.

Please, please, consider the seriousness of what you are about to do. There are so many ways for you to regret this. If you consider the worst things that could happen and decide it is worth the risk, then doing it becomes more thinkable.

Are you and your wife employed in Illinois? Can you find other jobs in your new location? Would you be willing to wait until one of you actually finds another job to move?

Have you considered how difficult it will be for both couples to sell your/their houses in this market, and whether you might end up losing money?

How long have you been under one roof continuously with the other couple? If only a few days at a time, I strongly urge you to all take a long vacation together, like two or three weeks, and live together somewhere like a condo. Or one couple takes a vacation and comes to stay with the other, who is still working. That will give you more of a feel for what daily life will be like. Definitely do all the normal things like cooking, cleaning, getting on your normal sleep schedules, sharing the TVs, etc. And yes, start to negotiate how you would rotate sleeping schedules and everyone's viewpoint on that and how much sex there should be. You may find a few big surprises in the kitchen, the bedroom, etc.

Are there children involved? Biiiig question. How will this affect them? Is anyone going to have to be uprooted?

And the last, biggest question: are you willing to have your hearts broken, or to break theirs, after everyone moves? Remember, most relationships do go south for one reason or another, and I don't mean to Florida.