 Re: moving in together
There's definitely a lot to consider. Just moving to a different area is a big deal enough without adding on the whole moving in with another couple. What amounts of time have you been able to spend together as a 4some so far? You said you already have a place down there, are you thinking about moving into your own place first and seeing how things go when you see each other on a more regular basis... then working into moving in together?
For me, I would think in a poly situation it would have to be much like just a regular couple deciding to move in together - you'd have to get to that point where you can't stand the idea of being apart, and you already spend so much time together that it just makes sense.
If it's something you ALL feel comfortable and ready to do, that's great. But, it sounds like you are just along for the ride and letting them drive the car. I have to wonder if everyone has really given full consideration to the long-term (and short-term) impacts this can have on the individual relationships within the 4some.
Hopefully, you'll get some feedback at least from other couples who have considered it in the poly situations, if not actually tried it.
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