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MrkLin · 03-23-2009, 08:15 AM

As I’ve mentioned before, that very thing happened to us. We were standing at the bar of our favorite swing club, when I heard a familiar voice off to my left. I turned just in time to see a woman I worked with and her husband walking toward us. Our eyes locked, and we both had an uncomfortable moment. It passed quickly though. After we got over the initial; “Oh my God, you’re here?” factor, we sat down with them and talked. While we didn’t play with them that night, they have since become very close lifestyle friends, and come to all of our parties.

It has happened twice more to us; in one case we met a guy who used to work for Lin online, and in another case we met a woman who at one time worked for me at a party. In all three of these cases, nobody has said a word to anyone not in the lifestyle – and then it was just to laugh about just how small of an area we live in. All of these people have become good lifestyle friends.

Everyone who has posted above is 100% dead on. If you should meet someone from work at a club, party, or wherever, they’re there for the same reason you are, and stand to lose just as much as you do if they’re outed. Think about it – nobody is going to go to work on Monday, and say to the boss, “Hey, guess who I saw at the swing club Saturday night?” The first response would be; “What were you doing at a swing club?”

Meeting someone from work at a club has an advantage or two that most people don’t think about. First off, you already know that person – that removes a lot of the ‘getting to know you’ nervousness that often accompanies a first trip to a club. Second, you know they’re going to be discrete, for the reasons the others and I have already mentioned.

If it should happen, (and who knows? It might,) don’t bolt from the room and hide in shame. Approach them and talk to them about it. Make sure they know that work is work, and play is play. Let them know that your lips are sealed, and you want to make sure they feel the same way. Once everything is out on the table, relax and enjoy yourself. They could very well become good lifestyle friends.

03-23-2009, 08:15 AM	#5 (permalink)
MrkLin Your Tent or Ours? Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 706 Location: mm Status: Couple	Re: What if I meet someone I know through work? As I’ve mentioned before, that very thing happened to us. We were standing at the bar of our favorite swing club, when I heard a familiar voice off to my left. I turned just in time to see a woman I worked with and her husband walking toward us. Our eyes locked, and we both had an uncomfortable moment. It passed quickly though. After we got over the initial; “Oh my God, you’re here?” factor, we sat down with them and talked. While we didn’t play with them that night, they have since become very close lifestyle friends, and come to all of our parties. It has happened twice more to us; in one case we met a guy who used to work for Lin online, and in another case we met a woman who at one time worked for me at a party. In all three of these cases, nobody has said a word to anyone not in the lifestyle – and then it was just to laugh about just how small of an area we live in. All of these people have become good lifestyle friends. Everyone who has posted above is 100% dead on. If you should meet someone from work at a club, party, or wherever, they’re there for the same reason you are, and stand to lose just as much as you do if they’re outed. Think about it – nobody is going to go to work on Monday, and say to the boss, “Hey, guess who I saw at the swing club Saturday night?” The first response would be; “What were you doing at a swing club?” Meeting someone from work at a club has an advantage or two that most people don’t think about. First off, you already know that person – that removes a lot of the ‘getting to know you’ nervousness that often accompanies a first trip to a club. Second, you know they’re going to be discrete, for the reasons the others and I have already mentioned. If it should happen, (and who knows? It might,) don’t bolt from the room and hide in shame. Approach them and talk to them about it. Make sure they know that work is work, and play is play. Let them know that your lips are sealed, and you want to make sure they feel the same way. Once everything is out on the table, relax and enjoy yourself. They could very well become good lifestyle friends.