I'll second the motion to vote alyssa as 100% doll. I really don't think you have anything to worry about as far as the computer and porn goes. I masturbate on a regular basis, though I tend to prefer stories to pics. I'd have to say the more sexual I'm feeling the more I masturbate and the more sex I have with the wife and/or playmates. I do think alyssa has to work on her self image. We can reassure her all day long how beautiful she is, but until she accepts that she will feel insecure, and that reverberates through everything she does. Try this link
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http://mentalhelp.net/psyhelp/chap12>
The whole book is interesting to read, if you have a long time to read.
If alyssa really doesn't mind him looking at porn, she can ask him to bring it up on the computer, then stroke her husband or blow him as he browses. We do this for each other sometimes when looking at porn or even when cybering
Still not sure where swinging enters into all this, but good luck to y'all
J