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Originally Posted by two4youinswva  But it is a part of the lifestyle to some degree. Many people experience it at some level while swinging.
The key is knowing how to deal with it, which of course comes down to communication and understanding those triggers that can cause the feelings to surface.
If jealousy was not an issue that some swingers have to deal with, I don't think it would warrant its own page on swingersboard.  |
No kidding.
Personally I find it odd that so many say they had NO jealousy. I'm not sure thats even healthy.
I often play with a couple we know for MFM's and the first several times we did these my wife was not always 100% comfortable with this and had to be in the right mood.
Later the first time my wife had an MFM his wife had very strong jealousy feelings.
Finally the time I let her go play without me, I didn't have jealousy feelings, but I had an uneasy feeling if I thought about it.
Its primal, its normal, it can be over come. Its never been a major game breaking issue for us, but its still there. Most couples we know enough to really talk swinging with all talk about having bouts of this when they first started.
For us, most of it is when we were not together. The first time we played it was same room and we had no issues, it wasn't until we did separate that there were issues. Maybe for us its the not being included which makes it harder to handle at the time.
We are past that mostly. I say mostly because if my wife told me she set up a gang bang for herself and to not wait up, odds are I'd have 'issues' with that, that go beyond her safety
