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JustMrJ · 03-17-2009, 06:10 PM

I can second ALL the above advice and add the following...

If you are jealous or possessive... you will FAIL as a swinger. If your wife is also jealous or possessive, same answer.

My wife and I love the fact that we can have sex with other people "play with other people". We get the excitement of the moment, the fun of relaying the story to each other later, try out new things we've experienced with others with each other. And, MOST IMPORTANTLY, we share the giving of unconditional TRUST!

If you don't have that kind of trust with yourself or your spouse you are doomed to fail not only the LifeStyle, but your relationship with your spouse.

Communication is key... SOBER communication. And it sounds like you both need a LOT of communication to get your relationship in order before you EVER explore things like this LifeStyle.

Good luck!

03-17-2009, 06:10 PM	#13 (permalink)
JustMrJ Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 491 Location: San Mateo, CA Status: M. Male Swing Lifestyle Name:JustMrandMrsJ	Re: Just the facts. Need your advice. I can second ALL the above advice and add the following... If you are jealous or possessive... you will FAIL as a swinger. If your wife is also jealous or possessive, same answer. My wife and I love the fact that we can have sex with other people "play with other people". We get the excitement of the moment, the fun of relaying the story to each other later, try out new things we've experienced with others with each other. And, MOST IMPORTANTLY, we share the giving of unconditional TRUST! If you don't have that kind of trust with yourself or your spouse you are doomed to fail not only the LifeStyle, but your relationship with your spouse. Communication is key... SOBER communication. And it sounds like you both need a LOT of communication to get your relationship in order before you EVER explore things like this LifeStyle. Good luck!
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