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Originally Posted by D-nice  well, the young lady ,that I've been dating for a couple of months, just seperated after a long marriage so I'm the first guy that's she been with other than her husband. |
Well thats a whole new can or worms.
Let me get this straight
You wanna get into the club. You tried the flakey gal and for some reason she dodged ya. Now your working a woman who isn't even divorced yet. (you did say separated)
Thats why the courts have a 60 day cooling off period.
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She's still spreading her wings sorta.
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No, I think she might have allot of things to sort out emotionally.
Ya know, swinging and swingers in general, are pro relationship.
What happens when she sees this and is in the middle of many couples in great relationships.
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We're not a serious couple as far as long time committment. She still has kids in the house so we go out when we can.
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Well, I'm just speculating but from experience, your probably the guy who is better than nothing, (no one wants to be alone during a separation).
Or else, you might have been the reason for the seperation... I don't know ?
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if there's a possibility of her getting into this lifestyle...that's her choice...not mine.
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So you just thought you would kick around the idea of swinging, you know, just to see.
I personally wouldn't want to be the guy who gives ya the edge to convince her to swing. And personally, if I met the two of you at a club. I would think her marriage/separation would be keyed in on, pretty quick.
I'm thinking of the guy, who is soon to find out. You know, The ex...
She met you and now is with a bunch of swingers.
Is our personal safety a consideration to you at all ? Things can unfold in the worst of ways.
Why not introduce her to the Swingers Board and let her speak for herself ?
She might have a better chance of an informed decision before going out with swingers ?
Just as in real life with Swingers, there will be people like us, talking with her. Are you prepared ? What if someone steps on you to get with her ? I mean your just a single guy, a dime a dozen so to speak. She will be the one in the lime light....
I just have the worst feeling at best. She will be saying "You used me" and you will be saying,
"No, we used each other "
Because you kept everything as her choice....