 Re: Thought Jealousy?
Nope.
I guess I'm lucky, but I just don't get this whole jealousy thing. As I understand it, jealousy is a fear that you will lose what you have to another person (as opposed to envy, which is desiring what someone else has).
When Mr. Ivory and I were first dating (I mean the first few weeks), another woman was gunning for him. He, sweet thing, didn't realize she wanted him as more than a friend and I didn't know him well enough yet to realize he wasn't trying to decide between us. I was jealous then, because in my view there was a very real possibility that I might lose him (btw, the jealousy ended the day he told me the other girl seemed upset when he'd ended a coffee date with "I'm having dinner with my girlfriend's family." He didn't get why she was upset!)
If a couple has a stable relationship and enters swinging for the right reasons--not to fix a relationship or because one person demands it, but to have fun and explore their sexuality--how can there be jealousy? I'm asking--what is there to be jealous of? I can understand envy "Wow, she's really enjoying that extra big cock. I wish I had that much girth." But "Wow, she's really enjoying that extra big cock. She's going to leave me"?!?
Do people really feel this way?
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