[The Fuse]

We don't give fake names. In the three years we've been meeting people, we have known one couple who used fake names during email correspondence and then told us their real first names when we met. Personally I don't see how that makes you any safer. By then they have seen your faces anyway, meaning before you have met.

We do not ever go to someone's house the first time we meet, nor do we invite someone to ours, unless we have spent a few hours with them and are comfortable.

When it comes down to it, we figure most people are just like us -- nice, normal people who have a wild side. After spending a few hours with people, we've asked them enough questions to have either felt a weird vibe from them, seen the red flags etc. -- or satisfied ourselves that they are normal people.

We don't confine ourselves to hotels. That would get expensive in a hurry, and we don't have kids, so we have no problem hosting. We figure if someone were going to rob us, they'd have an easier time taking an approach other than "hey, wanna fuck?".