Sigh...I DO hate being misunderstood in type. I by no means intended to come across as hostile AT ALL.
Please allow me to explain myself better (I hope)
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Originally Posted by prometheius 
Why don’t more people address this issue? I do realize that there may be some people out here that might still wish to have children, but for the most part, if they haven’t had kids by now, what are they waiting for?
I just wanted to hear other peoples' opinions on this issue
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My opinion is: people don't address this issue (within a swinging-type setting) because it's a personal matter. I, personally, wouldn't talk to a swing partner about my reasons for doing anything with my body, be it my piercings or tattoos or surgeries. Frankly, it's none of their business WHY.
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Originally Posted by prometheius We’ve been told by more than one man that he was afraid that having the procedure done would hurt.  This is a WTF moment for me, is there no pain in bearing a child? What about the financial pain of raising an unplanned child, or worse yet, the emotional pain of terminating an unwanted pregnancy? To me, this smacks of being self centered and makes me want to tell the guy that he can play with us once he gets his business taken care of. |
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Originally Posted by N8ture Girl If a man doesnt want to get fixed, then that is his choice. Thats not in dispute. The question is why. What are their legitimate concerns if any? I dont want to hear the cop-outs of "no one is taking my man-hood," or "it will reduce my ejaculate", or "it will hurt" or BS like that.These excuses are null and void and are nothing but myths. |
There are LOTS of legitimate concerns/ reasons not to undergo a voluntary medical procedure of
any kind. Fear of pain, to me, is a legitimate concern (it seems you think this is a "cop-out" or BS answer?). I also happen to think fear of infection, botched surgery, scarring, loss of function, and lack of money/time/desire are all legitimate reasons. Yes, yes, it's a commonly performed thing and is probably one of the safer medical procedures, but if you want to know more on a very similar debate, check out the thread on circumcision! And, BTW, I do realize you are probably playing devil's advocate to generate discussion and make people think (so am I - hell, I think 90% of the population should be sterilized LOL).
Trixie