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Originally Posted by N8ture Girl  Why do men fear it so? Do you think I am not scared to have my tubes tied? Well to be honest, I am terrified, after all they have to put me to sleep to do it, you men just get a local, then snip, snip and 30 minutes later you go home. |
That about sums it up. I've been V-safe for close to 5 years now, and it was about the way you described it. The procedure took about 30 minutes, and was painless. I had a 'scalpel-free' vasectomy, and no knives came anywhere near 'the boys.' The recovery took me about a week, but I did spend a lot of time sitting up instead of laying down as my doctor recommended. I had it done on a Thursday, and was back to work on Monday (I had Fri, Sat, and Sun off at that time, so I missed one day of work - vacation time.) The total cost was about $600, and we paid it with our tax refund. (The twisted side of me finds that funny - I don't know why.)
I think men are afraid of it because they don't understand it. They don't remove anything 'vital.' They simply snip the 'supply line' of sperm cells. I have no sexual side-effects from the surgery. In fact, truth be told, there are fewer 'side effects' because I have that potential problem solved. I don't have that worry hovering over my head, and I can relax and enjoy the experience without worrying about a condom breaking or a missed pill.
Overall, it is a lot cheaper, less invasive, and just easier for the male to get a vasectomy than it is for a woman to get a tubal ligation. Still, it's your choice. Lin had a tubal ligation done before we met, so she was already safe. I got the vasectomy done when it started to look like we were going to become a full-swap couple. I do think that if more men checked into it, they would change their minds about it. It's one week out of your lives guys, and they don't turn you into a eunuch. At least check it out.