I think it is necessary to realize that lust and love are two different emotions. You can have one without the other. Granted, it is primo when you have both together, but you can certainly indulge your lust with someone you don't love. Certainly, our society still inculcates guilt for anything other than MMPLO sex. Another thing that sometimes people feel is that they feel guilty that they don't feel jealous over their partner having sex with someone else. Or they feel their partner should feel jealous about them having sex. Also, somehow a lot of people still don't realize that the females capacity for sex is about 10X that of the male, so a woman who has sex with 3-4 guys and maybe plays with a couple women has 10-15 orgasms while poor hubby makes do with 2-3. I can see where that could lead to some guilt/jealousy. Our way of avoiding all that, and it works for others we've known too, is to use the term "sharing pleasures" for all things sexual. That is not only what we call it, it's how we feel about it. (yes, its from the Cave Bear books).
J
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