We went to a swing party, our first, and it didn't work out at all like we had thought it would and it worked out wonderfully at the same time. However, we both learned a lot from the experience that will tailor our tastes for times to come.
We had no expectations to begin with... had actually expectated to go up to our room and have hot sex alone together (which is mighty fine if you ask me)... but, one thing led to another. We have to say, that the best time we had was when it was us and another couple... just exploring and some oral... no penetration. It was very comfortable.
The most important thing to us though was, that throughout the entire experience, we were totally aware of the other. We were making love to one another even while there were other people touching us or we were touching others. We caught eyes, we smiled and talked. The most memorable was, after we had fantastic oral with the other couple, we held each other close and looked each other in the eyes and said, "I love you" simultaneously.
It was "us" having fun... that's the most important thing... and, we imagine, why people say go at the speed of the slowest... enjoy yourselves... etc. We feel that, as long as it is the "we" that are having fun... then WOW...
sorry for the long post, especially from a newbie... but have fun
[as an aside, because we noticed you mentioned ages... we are 32 and 26 respectively
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