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Originally Posted by shymxcpl  Reading the responses I think I must object.... I have to disagree because although there are all types of people in the LS, I have found that generally swingers tend to be a little more self conscious of their bodies than people at the mall. I mean lets face it... at some point we're going to be in a pool or beach or club naked and with people around us so we stop being complacent and comfortable and we at least make a small effort to look as best we can.
I'm not saying that everyone at the clubs are Brad and Angelina types, but I am saying that I think that everyone tries their best or SHOULD try their best to look good. |
I won't argue with this part of your post because for the most part I agree with it. My reference to going into any business, or the mall for that matter, was to point out that swingers are just ordinary people that you see every day in vanilla life, and look virtually identical to the folks you'll find just about anywhere. The folks you find at a swinger's club or party will be a cross section of the population - just like folks at the mall. That's all I meant
True - when we're out for a night at the club or going to a party, we do want to look good, and we take some extra time 'sprucing up,' as it were. And yes, we do tend to be a bit more self-critical than most vanilla people - but think about it - we're probably going to be naked in front of others, whereas most vanillas won't. Being self conscious in that context is understandable.
My entire point was that sometimes we tend to make more out of it than it really is. It's easy to get so caught up in what we perceive as a physical flaw that we just can't let go and have fun - especially when it's something that isn't really a flaw at all. I'm not saying that we should just let ourselves go and tell people to deal with it - I'm saying that we don't have to put such unneeded pressure on ourselves to conform to what others might consider to be 'fit.' Some of us will never be a size 2 - well, big fat hairy deal. It's more about the total package than any one piece. Yes, a size 2 may initially turn more heads, but everyone who has been to a club has seen a size 2 'strike out' while a size 22 is having an absolute blast. At the end of the day attractiveness is all subjective anyway - you will be attractive to some, and not attractive to others. Whether you're a size 2 or a size 22 has little bearing on that fact.