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Reading the responses I think I must object.... I have to disagree because although there are all types of people in the LS, I have found that generally swingers tend to be a little more self conscious of their bodies than people at the mall. I mean lets face it... at some point we're going to be in a pool or beach or club naked and with people around us so we stop being complacent and comfortable and we at least make a small effort to look as best we can.

I'm not saying that everyone at the clubs are Brad and Angelina types, but I am saying that I think that everyone tries their best or SHOULD try their best to look good.

I do agree however that the best thing you can do to improve you appearance is to carry around your self confidence. A woman that feels pretty, looks pretty... just don't over do it.

I've always seen swinging as a kind of continued dating after you've found that special someone who you want to be with for the rest of your life. Now if you think about it that way, remember when you were dating? Same thing.

As for guys... I read a blog post where the male half of the couple was ranting about how sometimes we men let go because we have a beautiful and fit partner. They use the assumption "If they want to play with her they'll have to play with me". It was very interesting since this is exactly what happens in the taking one for the team scenario. Anyway he, on behalf of all ladies, kindly asks all men in the LS to get with the program and do their best to look presentable. I thought it was very interesting and TRUE.