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MrkLin · 02-16-2009, 08:02 AM

I just spent the better part of a half hour trying to remember our first time. It's all a blur to me. I was so keyed up on adrenaline that it's all just an amorphous heap of body parts - lol.

I do remember trying to detach myself from the situation - I wasn't watching another man have sex with my wife, but rather just two people having sex. I figured in that way, I'd avoid jealousy. That didn't work for me (I didn't get jealous to begin with,) and I really didn't like thinking that way. To be honest, I was right there in the middle of it, so I didn't have a lot of time to sit back and watch them. She was the center of attention, and us men made sure she was taken care of in every way possible. There wasn't time to get jealous - I was just too busy.

Now I revel in the fact that another man is pleasuring my wife. I get my excitement from her excitement, if that makes any sense. So, her pleasure gets me more excited, and so it goes.

Jealousy does happen, but more important is how it manifests itself. If one of you is violent, manipulative, or the kind who would use this kind of thing to get your way on something else down the road, then I would suggest you don't even take a step in this direction. Leave it a fantasy.

Still, none of us knows what exactly will happen until it happens - Cpl2share, being a case in point. She was never jealous until the deed was done, while he admits that he was always more the jealous type. Neither of them expected things to play out the way they did.

Just remember that this is recreational sex - meaning sex without love. This other woman is taking nothing away from you. You are sharing him with her in only a physical way - nothing more.

02-16-2009, 08:02 AM	#10 (permalink)
MrkLin Your Tent or Ours? Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 706 Location: mm Status: Couple	Re: Jealousy, Your first time... I just spent the better part of a half hour trying to remember our first time. It's all a blur to me. I was so keyed up on adrenaline that it's all just an amorphous heap of body parts - lol. I do remember trying to detach myself from the situation - I wasn't watching another man have sex with my wife, but rather just two people having sex. I figured in that way, I'd avoid jealousy. That didn't work for me (I didn't get jealous to begin with,) and I really didn't like thinking that way. To be honest, I was right there in the middle of it, so I didn't have a lot of time to sit back and watch them. She was the center of attention, and us men made sure she was taken care of in every way possible. There wasn't time to get jealous - I was just too busy. Now I revel in the fact that another man is pleasuring my wife. I get my excitement from her excitement, if that makes any sense. So, her pleasure gets me more excited, and so it goes. Jealousy does happen, but more important is how it manifests itself. If one of you is violent, manipulative, or the kind who would use this kind of thing to get your way on something else down the road, then I would suggest you don't even take a step in this direction. Leave it a fantasy. Still, none of us knows what exactly will happen until it happens - Cpl2share, being a case in point. She was never jealous until the deed was done, while he admits that he was always more the jealous type. Neither of them expected things to play out the way they did. Just remember that this is recreational sex - meaning sex without love. This other woman is taking nothing away from you. You are sharing him with her in only a physical way - nothing more.