I'd go along with what Tanman said. At the end of the day, so long as you don't misrepresent yourselves, then you should be able to swing as soft or as hard as you like. I can appreciate the problems encountered during the houseboat trip, when there are limited places available, but you should still never feel put off from sticking to your guns.
If it's a busy shore-side on-premises club, there shouldn't be any problem with you blending into the background and doing all the watching that you like. After all, newbies are encouraged to visit and see what goes on without feeling pressured to join in. And there are always enough "watch and be watched" types out there for you to track down an individual couple to play with at home or at a hotel. |