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Originally Posted by Tommy n Tara  I searched and searched, but didnt find anything archived so my apologies if its been talked about.
We are heading to our first event this weekend (extremely excited, nervous, anxious, etc) and I have a question. Based on who my GF and I see as attractive, I would be surprised if we find a couple who we are both into making something happen with. I am imagining that we will both find people that excite us, but they will most likely not be a couple, rather two different people.
Is it acceptable/common for a couple to split up from each other completely and find a new and strange partner? |
Finding a couple where all 4 people click is NOT easy but it can happen. In large group situations it is more likely than in one one (or rather two on two) date situations, as there are many more couples to interact with. And, yes, you are right there will be situations where one of you is attracted to half a couple and the other is attracted to half of a completely different couple.
The splitting up thing is most common at house parties, and least common in venues like you described (off-premise, M&G, socials).... although still not completely uncommon for just general flirting. However, at the end of the night you have to consider that you aren't having sex at that location so splitting up REALLY means splitting up and going to different hotel rooms... something a lot of people aren't into... and even if they are they aren't likely to be into it in that situation because it's less likely that their partners have also found half of some other couple to hook up with elsewhere (in other words it would be more likely that a couple would split up to play with both of you in different rooms - if say you were into the wife and she was into the husband and vice versa but the four of you did not want to play together).
This being your first event and most likely off-premise. Your best bet is to just go with the intent of having fun and meeting lots of new and interesting people. Dance, flirt, be friendly and have fun. You might get lucky and find a situation where all four of you click and you can then go back to a room and have your first encounter, but don't expect it.
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Originally Posted by Tommy n Tara Since this our first time, many emotions are taken on (as I mentioned in my initial post) My GF is a bit apprehensive; therefore I was wondering how other couples would view this? How do couples handle newbies? What should we expect when speaking with other couples, etc.? |
It depends a lot on the newbies. If the newbies look scared to be there or look like they don't want to be there (sitting in a corner with their arms crossed and a frown on) they will likely avoid you. If you look friendly and approachable and like you are having a good time, the fact that you are newbies won't be an issue. People are attracted to fun people. Keep in mind as well that if you see someone you are interested in, you can also do the approaching. Again the off-premise events are the best for this because there really is no expectation (typically) for that night.