[iapr]

Keep this in mind, swinging is not cheating. It is not infidelity and it is not taking away any love, affection or attention away from your relationship with your partner.

If you came home unexpectadly and found your spouse in the arms of lover in the context of an affair you would be devastated, hurt, pissed off and jealous. So would all swingers because that is cheating and it is innately hurtfull and distructive.

When you have a swinging encounter as consenting couple, that is another facet of your maritial sexlife and it something that a couple does together for the benifit of their sexlife and relationship together. Yes there are other people involved and sometimes it can even involve intercourse with someone other than your partner while your partner does the same but it is only with the full consent and approval of everyone involved.

Noone wants to see their partner having an affair, but when it is a mutual endeavor and people are working together and it is for the right reasons, the other people are not interlopers or adulterors but rather collaborators that are adding additional excitement and stimulation into your lovemaking while you are doing the same for them.

Before we had our first experiences we were afraid of the same things as you but when it actually happened we were amazed at how natural it all was. And not only did we not feel jealousy when we saw each other with other people but it was actually a major turn on. The key is that it is something you are doing together as part of your lovemaking as a couple as opposed to just "having sex with other people."