 Re: Closing the door
We have known something of this sort.
Couple A&B we had played with many times. They had said in conversation that they could never do a poly relationship. Down the road they met couple X&Y and they became exclusive for over a year. But the still would not call it "poly" even though other than selling one of their homes and all moving in together they were. B (the wife) used to play with X (the husband) solo as well as with X&Y solo. A (hubby) never did play with them solo. In reality I think B was (is still?) in love with X and as long as everything was kept above board Y was totally okay with it.
B and X and Y is a poly relationship by any definition of the term.
However A (B's hubby) never did get into it and resented that B would not let him play solo outside of their little quad. Her own jealousy issues of not having him "there" even though she doesn't see the hypocrisy of herself playing solo.
A still talks with me on occasion and he is seeing someone solo and B doesn't know about them. We won't play with them because of this now. Knowing about it makes a liar out of us as much as him. So we just avoid them altogether in any manner past seeing them at a club or house party. A has also approached us to have threesomes but until we hear it from B's lips that it's okay that just won't happen.
So yes, it could work, but I think in more cases than not it will cause problems.
Mr. WS
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