[JustAskJulie]

I think you have to work on putting the spark back into your own relationship before you consider involving others in it.

If it's seriously a case where you both agree that the "marriage" is dead and you are really nothing more than friends/ business partners anymore, then perhaps the way to go is an open marriage. However, in these types of situations that rarely works either as eventually one or both realize what they are really missing and end up finding someone they feel fills in all the blanks.

However, if it's truely about rebuilding your relationship and re-igniting the spark, then work on that first. It's not to say that you can't throw in some fantasy of sex with others to help with the spark, or even a club visit where you can watch others. But, I think the most important thing is to take some time away (a vacation to a far away land) and really focus on each other and your relationship. Take that time to really reconnect as a couple and really focus on each other.

As others said, swinging is not something you use to fix a broken relationship. It can re-ignite a boring sex life IF everything else in the relationship is up to par (and beyond), but honestly from what you've said that doesn't sound like the case here.