 Re: Can't seem to find the right words!
How long have you been married? We all go through dry spells occasionally!
But as said above, before you even consider bringing others into the bedroom, you must be very secure in your own relationship first. You have to talk about everything, and more than once!
If you want to get back into more sex, you need to start with your husband. Outsiders at this point doesn't sound like a good idea - can only cause problems to magnify.
Become lovers again, and then see how you feel about it. Instead of thinking outside your marriage, focus your energy on him, and see if he will do the same. Tell him how you are feeling - that you are more roommates than lovers now. Perhaps he feels the same way, and without communicating neither of you knows how to move past it!
Marriage is tough. Swinging or having sex outside the marriage won't fix anything that you feel is broken today. It is supposed to enhance what you already have as a couple.
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