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Originally Posted by iapr  Ok, lets all take a little time out for a reality check here. There are a number of red flags here that are just flapping in the breeze and all of them are falling in the Danger Will Robinson zone.
#1. From what you have said of your wife, she is not swinger material. Period. If she has strong beliefs that sex is sacred and only to be shared between spouses, that is not a platform from which you can readily build a swinging relationship. Every woman has some reservations and questions when swinging is first brought up but if someone has strong beliefs against recreational sex in general there isn't much that can be said or done to work around that.
#2. Trying to seduce traditional vanilla friends into a sexual situation is ALWAYS a bad idea and puts three separate relationships in jepardy. You are your wife's, Their marriage and your relationship with them. Read through a few pages of topics here and you will see that screwing friends almost always turns out bad and you will also see that all of the most knowledgable and experienced posters almost always strongly discourage sex between traditional vanilla friends.
#3. If you know that your suggesting it will fall on the floor like a stinking turd then you can bet the farm that if you try to underhandly scam something into happening then it will blow up like a frigging shit bomb. Using dishonesty, deception and schemes is 100% guarenteed to piss everyone off and cause lots of pain and turmoil and the one that is going to have the most crap dripping off his nose after the shit bomb goes off is you.
Successfull legitimate swingers deal with things out in the open and on the table with honesty, communication, respect and courtesy to all and informed consent is paramount. What you are dreaming up here is little more than a fraternity schoolboy prank to try and score a little extra ass and get your jollys at other people's expense.
Bad idea.
Enjoy your Heinlein books and enjoy the fantasys but keep your marriage and your friendships intact and keep your hands to yourself. |
As I said, no suggestions will come from me. Too much is at stake to risk it. One card played wrong and I lose my wife, family, all of my friends, and my business reputation *when* the story gets out back home.
Thank you all, your wisdom is appreciated.