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pants_1 · 02-03-2009, 12:54 PM

Well, as some of you know, I'm in the midst of the transition to poly. Right now, my wife has a boyfriend (that's what I call him, anyway), and another possible hookup waiting in the wings. She and her boyfriend actually just had their first fight the other day... aww...

I'm not active, partly by choice... I'm looking, but taking it very slowly. Apart from the fact that I'd just like to have more sex (my sex drive is a bit higher than my wife's), I'm in no real hurry to do anything. With all the recent drama, I don't feel like precipitating any more crises until the recent ones have calmed down.

The whole poly thing was something she has wanted for a long time (since we met, really). I don't have a problem with it, as long as the "primary" relationship stays strong. That seems to set off everyone's warning bells, except mine.

I have gotten a lot of flak; some mistakes were made, and some drama has resulted. We didn't follow some of the swinging rules (and some logical safety rules too, but that has been dealt with), and that has bothered some people on the board. I don't mean to sound ungrateful... I've gotten lots of great support and advice. But I do think the situation is a simply different, and I am honestly a little afraid of being judged.

So that's where I am.

02-03-2009, 12:54 PM	#30 (permalink)
pants_1 Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 50 Location: ... Status: ...	Re: Who are Poly Folks Here? Well, as some of you know, I'm in the midst of the transition to poly. Right now, my wife has a boyfriend (that's what I call him, anyway), and another possible hookup waiting in the wings. She and her boyfriend actually just had their first fight the other day... aww... I'm not active, partly by choice... I'm looking, but taking it very slowly. Apart from the fact that I'd just like to have more sex (my sex drive is a bit higher than my wife's), I'm in no real hurry to do anything. With all the recent drama, I don't feel like precipitating any more crises until the recent ones have calmed down. The whole poly thing was something she has wanted for a long time (since we met, really). I don't have a problem with it, as long as the "primary" relationship stays strong. That seems to set off everyone's warning bells, except mine. I have gotten a lot of flak; some mistakes were made, and some drama has resulted. We didn't follow some of the swinging rules (and some logical safety rules too, but that has been dealt with), and that has bothered some people on the board. I don't mean to sound ungrateful... I've gotten lots of great support and advice. But I do think the situation is a simply different, and I am honestly a little afraid of being judged. So that's where I am.