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realcplub2 · 01-30-2009, 08:16 AM

Warrencpl,

There are people that attend clubs every weekend, and never touch another person, and yet have great sex.. for them the aspect of BEING there is a turn on.. Being Watched while they do whatever they are doing is enough of a thrill..

Try not to over think all of this,. find what you are comfortable with as a COUPLE.. and be up front and honest with anyone you communicate with about your wishes/wants.. and go from there.

There are plenty of people that will consider what you looking for.

As for the newbies, with the deer in the headlights .. it happens.. depends on the case in question.. If they are too nervous, you back everything down and go at thier pace. If theyre in a club, Be warm, Be Welcoming and see how things go.. Some will run screaming.. others will chatter for hours.. Others will jump in with both feet first....depends on too many factors to know which one is which.. but its sure fun to investigate a little and find out..

01-30-2009, 08:16 AM	#4 (permalink)
realcplub2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 806 Location: North Central Florida Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:putnamcocpl	Re: How do you feel about newbs who don't swap? Warrencpl, There are people that attend clubs every weekend, and never touch another person, and yet have great sex.. for them the aspect of BEING there is a turn on.. Being Watched while they do whatever they are doing is enough of a thrill.. Try not to over think all of this,. find what you are comfortable with as a COUPLE.. and be up front and honest with anyone you communicate with about your wishes/wants.. and go from there. There are plenty of people that will consider what you looking for. As for the newbies, with the deer in the headlights .. it happens.. depends on the case in question.. If they are too nervous, you back everything down and go at thier pace. If theyre in a club, Be warm, Be Welcoming and see how things go.. Some will run screaming.. others will chatter for hours.. Others will jump in with both feet first....depends on too many factors to know which one is which.. but its sure fun to investigate a little and find out..
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