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Well, first of all, I would say that we were that couple you described on our first few visits to the local on-premise club. It took a while to take it in, process it all and figure out if this was something that we wanted to pursue or not. The club will have all types of couples, each with different expectations, but overall, our experience has been if a couple finds you both attractive and fun to be with, sex may not be first on their agenda. Even experienced swingers enjoy meeting new couples and just having fun, and most are going to accept your newness and should be willing to go slowly and at your pace. Hey, we have all been there at some point...but we know some couples that jumped right in the first night out and full-swapped, and we also know some that have been in this for many years and will only soft swap. So you just have to take it slow, at the speed both of you (mostly your wife it sounds) are comfortable with and find that compatible couple help you along. Thinking about swinging and actually doing it are very different animals... Keep on reading from this board and communicate as much as possible with your wife for starters and if she is up for it, see if she would go to a club. Just be yourself and have fun with no expectations...
We eased into the actual swinging part after just having a curiousity of going to the a club environment and checking it out. I would also recommend meeting another couple for dinner, they should be willing to guide you both along with answers to questions you may have and sharing experiences. You will learn a lot more in a few hours face to face talking with them.
What has solidified my wife's views and acceptance of the lifestyle was meeting and talking with other couples like us that were already experienced swingers. Even though I have the best relationship a man could have with his wife, there are some things that she has to see and hear for herself for her own confirmation. Your wife may have in interest in bi-play, plus there's the jelousy factors that may be an issue, so make sure you both understand what swinging is all about. It is quite simple really, just to have fun, but it takes the right combination of having a healthy relationship, lots of trust in each other and a good set of rules you both will adhere to going in.
I really wouldn't worry too much about being new with another couple, just be upfront with them, so they know what to expect from you, and visa versa.
Hope that helps...

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